This Is Why Your Business Feels Heavy

Running a Business While Healing: The Balance Nobody Prepares You For

There was a moment when I realized my healing wasn’t separate from my business—it was directly affecting it.

I was doing so much. Working nonstop. Touching everything. Trying all the ideas. But somehow, I wasn’t getting anywhere. I felt busy, but not productive. Accomplished, but also empty.

And the truth was simple:
I had no systems. No real organization. No structure. I was just doing things.

That’s when it hit me—you can do a lot of work and still be doing a whole lot of nothing if everything is out of whack.

That’s when I realized my healing, my habits, and the way I showed up were spilling straight into how I ran my business.

When you’re healing, you start to see patterns you didn’t notice before. You recognize when you’re moving out of survival instead of intention. You notice when you’re pushing just to say you’re pushing, not because it’s actually working.

One of the biggest things I had to unlearn about hustle was the idea that going hard is always the answer. It’s not. Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is stop. Chill. Pause. Pay attention.

Balance doesn’t mean doing less—it means doing things with purpose.

And right now, balance for me isn’t pretty. It’s not aesthetic. It’s not perfectly scheduled mornings and smooth routines. Balance looks like learning. It looks messy. It looks like trial and error. It looks like realizing what needs to be fixed or changed and actually taking note of it instead of ignoring it.

I’m learning balance in real time.

One of the hardest parts of balancing healing and business is consistency—and guilt. Guilt when my focus shifts. Guilt when I’m writing instead of working. Guilt when I’m working instead of being fully present as a mother. Guilt when one area needs more attention than the others.

And on top of that, trying to figure out a system that allows everything to get done without neglecting something else.

That part is hard.

What I wish more women knew about building while healing is that it takes time. When you first start, you think, “I’ll be here in a year.” Then you look up and four years have passed, and you’re still learning, still adjusting, still growing.

That doesn’t mean you failed.
That means you’re in the process.

There will always be something you notice that needs to change. And that’s actually the beauty of it. Growth doesn’t stop—it just evolves.

Balance has also required me to say no lately. No to pressure. No to unrealistic expectations. No to certain internal conversations that try to pull me back into old patterns. Sometimes I literally have to tell myself, no, we’re not doing that.

And then there’s Pretty&Ghetto.

Pretty&Ghetto is big. It’s layered. It’s meaningful. And honestly—it’s a lot. There are so many moving parts, and trying to tackle everything at once will wear you down fast. Right now, balance looks like understanding that this is a huge vision and giving myself permission not to carry it all at the same time. It looks like learning to delegate. Learning to pace myself. Learning that everything doesn’t need my hands on it immediately.

The season I’m in right now is learning. I’ve done a lot of unlearning already. Now it’s about gaining the knowledge, systems, and structure that will actually take me to the next level.

Because balance, for me, means finding a way of doing things where progress is visible. Where things are getting done. Where I’m not constantly overwhelmed, overworked, or feeling like I have no time for anything.

Balance is building systems that support you instead of draining you.

And if you’re building while healing, trying to figure it out as you go—you’re not behind. You’re learning how to build something that actually lasts.

That’s the work. And that’s enough.

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